What is conflict? Battle arises when a couple of individuals are in disagreement with each other, and each consider the other is wrong or at fault. Another interpretation is the stage at which hostility and rage may lead to physical harm to others. Conflict is obvious in many of the relationships that we may experience in our everyday lives. It may be between co workers, employer and worker, partners or even in other family relationships. In the course of living as a result of our differing personalities and we may have various relationships these may lead to contradiction arising.
I remember a scenario between myself and a good buddy which denigrated into an argument; and as we each refused to give in conflict place in and the friendship ended. As a more mature man I now understand that it is ok to hold opposing views. Occasionally an intermediary may be useful in helping the opposing folks come to some resolution. This is especially true.
Conflict resolution entails using great and effective communication skills. An essential part of communications is listening as well as speaking. We all know that as we communicate our emotions come into play; consequently we should be prepared to evenly place our point of view across. Occasionally it is necessary to put our point of view across several times, that’s to re-phrase what we’re saying. It could be that the wife in the scenario believes she is not receiving sufficient support in the house, whereas the husband feels that all his wife does is nag.
The conversation between the couple may begin with the wife saying something like ‘I know I Have said this many times before, but I truly believe you could do more in the dwelling’. ‘Let me merely say that again so that you just do not feel I am being unnecessarily challenging. Might it be possible that we can share the housework? It seems that most matters are left for me to do, including the shopping, although we are both working. The response is most likely not positive from her spouse who may retreat into a defensive mode if he believes he’s being attacked and or unappreciated.
How then might we generate the desired response and communicate with each other. I would assert that in all situations we should quit setting ‘me’ . It is important not merely to get your own way but to comprehend that in resolving the disagreement it’s to be done in a way that is certainly in the best interest of all concerned.
In the scenario if someone, in this case the wife, feels that she’s unnecessarily burdened formerly mentioned she seek other means of balancing the scales, and may at some stage become resentful. This may lead to other problems in the union. I really believe that a supportive answer may be encouraged by sharing your point of view in a constructive manner. It may be that you appeal to the ego of your partner. For instance, I really appreciate it when you put out the rubbish or I actually want you unpack the dishwasher more often.
There are many means of communicating effectively to elicit a desired answer and a few have been merely exemplified by me. I do not always get it right, yet I undoubtedly believe that its best to communicate feelings rather than acting them out. You are hurt, or feel aggrieved if, share the feelings, the hurts or the issue with the individual with whom you are having a relationship. If they wish to have a harmonious relationship they nor merely deflect the communication and will react positively